The registry, reimagined
Nobody remembers the fourth set of plates. They remember the aunt who paid for the safari and the cousin who bought the first month of school fees. This is where you tell people how they can meaningfully contribute — to the day, and to the life that follows.
Opening the registry…
“Families do not fall out over the money. They fall out over the missing receipt.”
From the Playbook
Three honest numbers
Said · Committed · Paid
a verbal yes to a caterer is already a commitment
African allocation
Food 40 · Venue 17
the US/UK standard inverts it — venue 27, food 24. Do not average them.
Hidden costs
12–20%
service charge, corkage, overtime, generator, vendor meals, cake cutting
Contingency
10%
untouched until the week of